Is there anyone who’s capable of loving another person without–even if subconsciously–seeking approval of their love?
Like, if I love this man, but my family doesn’t approve of him, will that alter the course of action I take in being with him? It has to. I mean, I know I still love him, but lack of approval must hold me back. If our relationship was accepted completely, we’d already be husband and wife.
And you’re always asked: what do you love about him? why do you love him?
Do you have to give a detailed answer in reply? It should be perfectly admissible to respond:
I love him, but I don’t know why. It’s just how it is. For some reason, I feel happy and whole and completely at ease when I am with him. It is like the whole world exists for our particular pleasure… And the mountains look more beautiful now, so it must be love.
If all is fair in love and war like they say, why does it matter who you love and how you do it? Anyone who has ever been in love has to understand that there are no rules. You can’t control the timing or the circumstances, but you must push through despite that. There is no other choice.
Why are people so offended, then, about who you love? If, as a couple, you don’t fit within their set of normalized standards, you are ostracized. Why can’t they see that you want nothing more than to be in a “normal” relationship because it would make everything so much simpler. But that’s not how the world works. Why can’t they see that? And why can’t they have their hearts open to love too?
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